ADHD and Perfectionism: Why "Good Enough" Doesn't Compute (and What to Do About It)

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If you are surrounded by half-done projects and hating yourself for it, this episode is for you.

Perfectionism is one of the most common cognitive distortions in women with ADHD. It is a symptom, not a character flaw. And there is actual neuroscience behind why your ADHD brain crashes at 80 percent done and cannot cross the finish line.

In this episode I walk you through the four doors into ADHD perfectionism (armor, the procrastination loop, RSD, and all-or-nothing thinking), the dopamine reward pathway dysfunction that causes the 80 percent crash, and exactly why "just lower your standards" is the wrong advice.

Then I give you The 70% Drop. A simple, concrete move you can do today to retrain your brain, ship one half-done thing, and start breaking the shame cycle.

What we cover:

• Why perfectionism is an ADHD symptom, not a flaw
• Dr. William Dodson on RSD (and why 99% of us have it)
• The 80% dopamine crash, explained
• How all-or-nothing thinking traps ADHD moms
• The 70% Drop, step by step